Feeling
like a dead beat mom….
Here
lately I have felt like a pretty bad mommy to be.
I keep
reading about others that are busy get nurseries ready, deciding names, working
on the registry…etc.
I have
little to no desire to do these things.
I also
feel horrible about having no desire to do them.
The
thought of the nursery is rather put on hold since I don’t know what theme to
go with and also I have been offered a new crib and such by my mom but it will
be a while before they are purchased. I have no idea on colors or any of that
though…the only sort of “theme” that we have is perhaps Disney…and that was
purely by accident…and a collection of stuffed animals.
Deciding
names has been particularly troublesome. Picking out boy’s names was something
my husband seemed much more interested in…though admittedly he came up with
some really “interesting” ones. Now that we are having a girl it seems like he
expects me to come up with it, and I do have a name that I am partial to but
that doesn’t mean I don’t want his input. I do want her name to start with a “K”
but that is really the only thing I have as a stipulation. It leaves things
wide open…and perhaps that is the problem. Also I worry that I will pick a name
and then see her and it won’t fit…then you are back to square one anyway!
Naming your child is something that is important after all, trust me I work in
an educational system, I see names all day long that make me cringe. Names
matter and I suppose that is why I am avoiding the whole thing.
Working
on the registry is just that…work. I haven’t been around a baby since I was a
teen and babysitting. I remember a few things from then and a few things from
when my own brothers were little but other than that I know next to nothing.
Trying to pick out bottles, strollers, and other things has been overwhelming.
I have recruited ideas from other mom’s via Facebook but all in all I feel like
I’m a mess. Plus I don’t want to register for things I will never use; I have
enough clutter in my life without going bonkers over baby “Must-Haves”. However
the deadline for the baby shower is approaching and thus I need to register.
All it does is remind me of the wedding registry which I found just as
overwhelming and just as miserable. I hate asking anyone for anything and in
all honesty I feel like I have too much already.
I
realize there must be other moms out there that feel the same way and I try to
remind myself that it will come along in its own time. I know that I will do my
very best to be the greatest mom ever….but it will come at a learning curve and
unfortunately no one can really fully prepare you for what is in store once you
have a baby. Each child is different, each family is different, and I will make
mistakes along the way. Still I have the mommy guilt, I am so excited about the
baby…but all the things that go with it seem to be more than I can handle at
the moment.
Right now I just want her to kick so my husband can feel her and
not hold still each time he puts his hand on my belly. I want my sanity back as
well as my organized mind. I do not appreciate forgetting what I am doing
midway through or forgetting all together to do something. Feeling this way
makes me feel guilty as well…but I guess that just comes with the territory.
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